8 Myths Your Parents Probably Told You About Sorority Life

(but DPhiE proved wrong)

by Kira Greenlee (Delta Nu), Administrative Intern

  1. You will be hazed! Joining a sorority can diminish your self-worth.

Contrary to what society and the media will tell you today, joining a sorority does not have to be emotionally abusive. As a new member (not a pledge!) of Delta Phi Epsilon – instead of being torn apart for your flaws, you are shown pathways to success, how to be your best self and celebrate who you are through personal development.

2. Sorority girls are airheads.

Some of the most influential and brightest women I have met in my life are my sisters. Underneath the social attire is a hard-working, intelligent and success-driven woman. Think Elle Woods in Legally Blonde, you can dress cute and be smart. I bet you didn’t know that Condoleeza Rice, Katie Couric, Kate Spade, Tory Burch, and the woman who saved us all and developed Spanx, Sara Blakely, were all sorority women.

3. It’s all about the parties.

While automatically having 100+ new friends to celebrate the weekend with or an automatic connection with a fraternity is an added bonus, we still have lives Sunday through Thursday. There’s nothing we enjoy more than binge-watching Netflix at someone’s house after midterms, crafting for our future littles or going out to dinner in the city for a special occasion. But we also spend a lot of time together doing philanthropy work – raising money for ANAD and CFF and volunteering in our communities, and we love it just as much.

4. You’re paying to have friends

    Yes, joining a sorority isn’t free. But what am I getting out of it? Sure, some shoulders to cry on, a few memorable parties and the occasional t-shirts that I can turn into a quilt for my daughter some day, but I am also getting a large group of women who will ultimately be my friends for life, and a support network of 100+ women which could lead to job connections and a future career opportunity. Our dues also go towards supporting the larger Delta Phi Epsilon international network of women, hosting events to raise awareness for our philanthropies and community service, and contributions for scholarships to future college women. I think it’s worth it.

5. Unnecessary frienemies, rivals and stereotypes.

We all remember when the snobby Phi Iota Mu house mom in the movie, House Bunny, turns away Shelly at the door.  Shelly then finds herself amidst a sorority rival between the Phi Iota Mu and Zeta Alpha Zeta. Now, if this happened in real life – why are there currently over 300,000 undergraduate members of the National Panhellenic Conference that is the umbrella organization for 26 sororities? I don’t know anyone who would want to partake in this. Every sorority woman joined for the same reason, to find that bond, to find their sisters, to find their best friends and to find a smaller home for themselves within the overwhelming community that is college. So what’s the difference between each sorority? The colors? The mascot? Every sorority woman will tell you that they are all part of something larger than themselves and are striving to do good whether it’s through philanthropy, community service, etc. There’s a whole world out there full of nonaffiliated students who want nothing more than to hate on Greek life but no matter the letters, we all stick together

6. School won’t be important to you anymore

    When I first joined Delta Phi Epsilon, I was worried about time management and how I would survive the infamous sleepless nights of studying and cramming. However, I quickly learned that the other women in my organization were doing the same thing. Delta Phi Epsilon chapters want to ensure that each of their women are fulfilling their academic potential, because hey, isn’t that why we came to college in the first place? Class, exams and papers always come first and your sisters are always there to bring you food to the library at 2 AM, send you their study guides or lend you a text-book.

7. Employers won’t take you seriously

      As a graduating senior this semester, I can ensure you the opposite is true. What is more impressive than a resume filled with leadership experience, volunteering, philanthropy and hundreds of thousands of connections within the Greek community all before your 21st birthday? You were Director of Finance and managed a cash flow of $50,000 a year? You were Vice President of Membership Development and managed and education 50-100 new members over a six week period? You were president of an organization and lead over 150 women? You were fundraising/philanthropy coordinator and raised over $10,000 for CFF? You go Glen Coco. How many other applicants can say any of this

8. Sorority girls are fake

faith in yourself elle woodsAlright, alright Deephers settle down. We all know we take this accusation very seriously. Our motto “Esse Quam Videri” is something we live by every single day. In Latin, this means “To be, rather than to seem to be.” In other words, be authentic, be you and be your best self. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not when you can actually become that person. As sisters of Delta Phi Epsilon, we become the women we looked up to as new members.  We become women who are proud of who they are.  And lastly, but most importantly, we become women that Delta Phi Epsilon encouraged to become the best versions of themselves.